FUNERAL CUSTOM

FUNERAL CUSTOM

Jewish funerals are guided by long-standing customs and religious principles that shape how we honor and care for those who have died. We are here to support families who prefer traditional practices as well as those who choose a more contemporary approach.


Whether you are arranging your own plans in advance or making decisions after a recent loss, it is helpful to speak with your family and your Rabbi to ensure your choices reflect your beliefs and observances.


Jewish funeral services are intended to be reverent and spiritually focused, preserving the dignity of both the deceased and the mourners.


Practices that are generally not permitted under Jewish law and tradition include:


  • Embalming
  • Public viewing of the deceased
  • Cremation
  • Entombment above ground
  • Flowers or musical performances at the service
  • Clothing that does not match the seriousness of the occasion


Traditional Jewish practices often include:


Shmeerah (Guarding) – Keeping someone with the deceased from the time of death until burial. A family member or appointed person may serve in this role, and the funeral home can arrange for a knowledgeable observer when needed.


Taharah (Ritual Washing) – A sacred cleansing performed by the Chevra Kadisha, or when unavailable, by qualified members of the Jewish community.


Tachrichim (Burial Garments) – Simple white shrouds symbolizing equality before God. Men are also wrapped in a tallit.


Oron (Casket) – A plain wooden casket, built without metal, allowing for natural return to the earth in keeping with the teaching, “from dust you came and to dust you shall return.”


K’reeah (Tearing of Garments) – A symbolic tearing of clothing worn by mourners, expressing grief openly.


K’vurah (Burial) – Burial takes place as soon as reasonably possible. Family and friends often help fill the grave, an act viewed as a final kindness. Kaddish is recited only after the grave is closed.


These practices can vary depending on one’s branch of Judaism, personal level of observance, rabbinic guidance, and the requirements of the cemetery.


We welcome the opportunity to discuss Jewish funeral customs and are always glad to work alongside your Rabbi to ensure your wishes are honored.